Holle Has a Lot of Thoughts

Wow, there is a lot to unpack this week. I am going to be talking about Donald Trump, Sexual Assault, and the leak from the weekend, so if any of that is triggering, be warned and ready before you read on.

Right, so …

So a tape leaked to the Washington Post with something Trump said just over a decade ago. To sum up, he talks first about pursuing a married woman and being turned down. He then talks about how he responds to beautiful women. In his words (all quotes lifted from Washington Post and the linked article),

“You know I’m automatically attracted to beautiful — I just start kissing them. It’s like a magnet. Just kiss. I don’t even wait.”

If being kissed immediately upon meeting a man is not bad enough, well, it gets worse from there.

“And when you’re a star, they let you do it,” Trump says. “You can do anything.”

“Whatever you want,” says another voice, apparently Bush’s.

“Grab them by the p—y,” Trump says. “You can do anything.”

So there is that statement … from a man accused of sexually assaulting and/or harassing multiple women, including an under-aged girl.

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Keeping Up with the Haters

So Kim Kardashian was robbed at gun point in Paris. You probably did not know because you live under a rock, do not follow Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram, and in fact do not even have internet. You are reading this through smoke signals.

Right, so now that we are past what everyone knows, why am I writing about it? I am not even a Kardashian fan.

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I have been a bad girl and have not been updating the blog as often as I should. I’ve been busy with freelance work, though. Which is a good thing.

I’m trying to decide what I want to talk about next. I think one of the problems is that in freelance writing I talk about so much stuff. I mean a lot of stuff. After a while, you forget what the last article or the last story you wrote was about. Your mind just moves through the project and onto the next one. You do your best in the moment, of course, to provide a good article or an artistic story.

I like to think I do a fair job. 🙂

It keeps me busy, though.

So you get this rambling while I decide what I want to tackle on the blog next. I wax philosophical a lot. I think I want to try something practical next. So … if anyone is reading this let me know in the comments what kind of practical stuff around BDSM, sex, and erotica you want me to talk about.


Right now – I have a heavy and troubled heart. Early Sunday morning, something terrible happened at Pulse in Orlando. A gunman opened fire and murdered innocent people. There are not enough words to express the sorrow or how my heart goes out to those who lost a loved one or a friend.

In the coming days, we will hear a lot of talking from the usual places. It is best that we keep a few things in mind, especially if we are going to share news or memes.

  1. People lost someone they love. Respect that and respect their sorrow.
  2. Do not use this as your political tool. If you truly want to help and if you truly believe that something you believe can help prevent these tragedies or minimize them at least, then write your Congressman, reach out to lobbyists, and offer your opinion on surveys that think-tanks send out. If you share those ideas, remember number one. People are hurting right now, and you might know some of them.
  3. Do not become blind to what happened. We are still learning the full extent of this terrible event. The most important things to remember, however, is that a man made a choice and hate informed that choice.
  4. Do not let hate in your heart in this. Do not blame other innocents for the murder of innocents.

Though I am tempted, I will not wax political about this. Instead, I will just offer this: my thoughts and my prayers to the survivors and to those who lost someone dear. Nothing can replace what was taken and we can only mourn for and with you.

Because We Like to Feel Good about Ourselves

Very recently, North Carolina passed a law, House Bill 2 (or HB2 as it has come to be known everywhere). The link takes you to the PDF of the law, so that you can read it for yourself if you like.

What is HB2?

HB2 sets out a few little provisions about a few little things for North Carolina. Specifically it says that:

  • Single-sex multiple occupancy restrooms (men’s room, women’s room) must be used by those whose biological sex (on the birth certificate) matches the sign on the door.
  • It specifies the groups that cannot be discriminated against in North Carolina. It excludes sexual orientation as a protected class and specifies “biological sex” as a protected class.
  • Prevents individual cities, counties, etc from creating protections beyond what the state provides.
  • Prevents individual cities, etc, from determining their own minimum wage.
  • Prevents individual cities, etc, from requiring anything of contractors beyond what the state requires of them. This includes stricter regulations that a city may want to require because of, say, exposure to well-water.

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Yes, You Do Have to Be Taught (secret: we all do)

An image is going viral right now of a young UK man stating that he does not need to be taught not to be a rapist.

It is true that he may not need his college to teach him that. Maybe he does understand what consent and active, enthusiastic consent is. Maybe he understands how to navigate and negotiate complex situations so that he ensures that any kind of sexual encounter he has with someone is consensual.

Here is the thing, though.

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Holle’s Thought for the Day

The only way anyone is less of a sub is if you’re a 6-inch from Subway. That is less of a sub than a foot-long.

Otherwise, you just have a preference for what you do and do not like – just like whatever Dominant or fellow submissive who is trying to bring you down because you don’t like their “kink.”

Doing Our Job

I’m tired of seeing this, but I feel that I have to say something about it. In part, I need to say something about it because I see a lot being said that is – rude to be honest.

I could start off with memes and I am going to. I’m going to use, however, the least offensive memes to introduce today’s topic.

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