As I have been writing various stories, I have noticed something.
My own inclinations, as I have discussed before, are more toward Dominant and I am currently learning to express that more, etc. In my writing, however, my main characters are almost always submissive. In my most recent Commission piece, the two POV characters are both Dominants, but one of them enters into submission to the other as the result of a bet.
That is, however, the exception.
I don’t mind this. I don’t think it calls into question my own lifestyle role any more than writing straight/gay characters call into question my sexuality. I do find it interesting enough to write about, however, and I do wonder how many other BDSM erotica authors also write from primarily the submissive’s point of view.
Why do I do it?
Because in the stories that I write or that I am commissioned to write, the submissive role is usually the one who has the most to win or lose in the resolution of the conflict. I think part of this is natural to power exchange as well. The submissive in a dynamic, giving up power to the Dominant, has to then trust that Dominant to not abuse that power.
But that is an assumption. A stereotype. In a true power exchange dynamic, both parties are equally invested and both parties face risks. While the Dominant is receiving power, S/he has to rely upon the submissive to be responsible in what power is given up. What happens when the submissive hits sub space and the Dominant is not prepared for that? Or what if the Dominant is not experienced with or does not understand sub space?
In my mind, I think that the Dominant POV would be boring to write from, but I know that is not true. It does make me wonder, though. I find the submissive POV an easy one to explore and write about. Would I find a Dominant POV challenging, and would I be able to give it the same life that I provide to my submissives?
A few thoughts as I explore my writing.